HeartMending and Full Moon Mandala Making!

Ah...  Valentine's  Day.  It's around the corner you know.  I love February and Valentine's.  To me it's not a day to celebrate just romantic relationships and lingerie sales.  It's a day I feel, reminds us that Love Wins.  Love, whatever form, is celebrated.  Friend love, agape love, love for humanity, spiritual love, self love (and I have a whole blog I'm going to write on our perverted pop culture use of the word narcissist -- clinical narcissism exists only in about 2% of the population!  Narcissistic tendencies... is a different matter).   The poet Rumi has always engaged me in ethereal thoughts of love.  

"In your light I learn how to love. In your beauty how to make poems. You dance inside my chest where no one sees you, but sometimes I do and that sight becomes this art."  as translated by Coleman Banks

I used to think this quote was tied to a person to person love.  A Romantic Love.  But the older I grow, and I'm over half a century old now, the more I have become convinced that Rumi was talking about the pure love from the Universe.  Spirit.  The energy of pure, "love and light".  Can that be in a romantic relationship?  Yes.  You can even be with someone and see the pure, unadulterated light of spirit working within them, within thoughtful acts, within compassion, within how they interact with you and the world.  So truly, it's a universal quote.

Only for a short time did I ever bemoan Valentine's Day, being a hopeless romantic in both this life and the spiritual world.  But I get why Valentine's Day can be seen with cynicism from some.  And to those that do see it that way, I challenge you, this time, to stretch and look at it as a day to dedicate to appreciating the one's you love in many forms... including learning to do something meaningful to show your inner self you are working on loving it.  Speak gentler to it.  Brene Brown's famous quote is ringing in my ears, "Speak to yourself as you would someone you love."  Someone you truly, purely love.  Perhaps you don't know what that feels like.  That's ok.  If you open your heart in the midst of nature and let go of the ramblings of the mind... connecting to earth you will hear your heart and it's messages to you.   

Many people are afraid of that because they have heart wounds that are very painful and unprocessed.  This is part of the work I do with people.  Heartmending.  Platicia's, talking sessions, are apart of my work as a Curandera.  It's therapy on a spiritual scale and when the wound is revealed, yes, there are tears, to release.  Intensities, to learn to breathe through and feel, and let light in to heal.  A new you, in this heartmending, is born in different ways.   You reclaim your relationship with yourself and your power source in not an aggressive way, but in true self love.

One of the therapeutic art activities that I love to do with folks is the Heartmending Heart.  I'll be posting information on the live, virtual workshop that will be offered in a couple weeks to get you started in the stitchery and the mark making techniques.  This process bring the inner, outward, visible, so that you can tangibly see it healed, sew together and bless it for it's teachings as well as let it go.

We all have something we need to mend in our heart.  Break ups, loss, trauma (which admittedly is more complicated), betrayal.... join me in your own Heartmending.

You can heal your life. 

"Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” “I find that when we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works.” “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” - Louise Hay

Bringing On Your Brilliance


Along time ago, Geesh, at least 20 years ago now, I heard a song by Janna Stanfield.  It was called What Would You Do If You Could Not Fail?  Long title I know, but great question.  It struck me hard.  At that time I was 33ish and had always been fearful of both success and failure from insecurities fueled from the anxious and invalidating home life I'd had growing up.  I'd have great ideas and was determined to engage in them and would actually start to do them, then... somewhere... I'd pull back in insecurity and fear.  A lot of it was when there was conflict and my system, growing up in a home with verbal abuse was, fueled from that.   

When I heard that song, my soul was lit on fire.  It so spoke to me, I am convinced now, that it was a spirit guide encouraging me and shining on my path.  Sometimes a path in an internal direction, of course.  When I started my practice, I asked myself this question in those moments of doubt.  What would you do if you could not fail?  My answer was this.  Sacred Pathways.  Create and show my art.  Make my music.  Engage with people.  Help humanity.  Do the next right thing with authenticity and from the heart.

Would your life change, and how, if you lived a fully authentic life, brining on your best self 100%, regardless of the insecurities of the Self and judgements from others?   what would you do if you could not fail?    As Maryanne Williamson has said for decades, “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.”

Create a vision board and share it if you want of what you life would look like if you embodied your wildest dream and embrace fully all your brilliance, talent and fabulousness!

A New Starting Line


A New Year will be here at 12:01pm!  What an energizing time to say so long to 2022 and welcome in the potential of 2023.  While resolutions can be embraced by some and not others, I encourage you so create a vision board tonight or within the next week of where you'd like your life to be.  Set this board in a place of reminder, so you can see if frequently, and particularly when you are disheartened by situations or thoughts that come up.   Having a key affirming statement or quote can be helpful too reframe those negative thoughts.  One of my favorites is from Micheal Bernard Beckwith:

"Out of nothing and no way a way will be made."

I've used this so many times in the past decade it's insane.  But it reminds me that our minds are limited in what they can see and if we learn to let go and open to possibilities, they come, often in ways we could not even conceptualize before.   There's another quote that has been with me for 4 years and many of you have heard me use it:

"I had to make you uncomfortable to get you to move." - The Universe.

Every situation of discomfort is a catalyst for movement within ourselves.  Whether it is reminding us to use our coping strategies, encouraging us to take new paths, serving as a means of deeper inquiry into understanding ourselves or a warning sign, all of those take movement.   A reminder about the therapeutic process.... we cannot stay where we are to change.  That takes navigating through discomfort.   Perhaps Michael Bernard Beckwith's quote can help with that discomfort and letting go as we maneuver the possibilities in this new year.

Key reflection questions for journaling or just entertainment :)

What was the biggest challenge you faced this year and how did you navigate through it?

What was your main area of inner growth?

If you could choose one word to use as your mantra for next year, what would it be?

What does your deeper and wiser Self want you to do right now?

In what ways are you being invited to evolve in 2023?

See you this week and Happy New Year!